As Rosh Chodesh Av begins, the Jewish people enter one of the most reflective periods of the year known as The Nine Days. These days lead up to Tisha B'Av, the national day of mourning commemorating the destruction of both the First and Second Temples in Jerusalem and other tragedies throughout Jewish history.

At Congregation Bnai Brith Jacob, we encourage our community to embrace this time with mindfulness, reflection, and a renewed appreciation for our shared heritage. Whether you're observing these customs for many years or learning about them for the first time, understanding their purpose helps deepen their meaning.

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What Are The Nine Days?

The Nine Days begin on Rosh Chodesh Av and conclude after the fast of Tisha B'Av. During this period, Jews observe additional customs of mourning beyond those already practiced during The Three Weeks.

These customs remind us of the loss of the Beis HaMikdash (Holy Temple) while inspiring us to strengthen our commitment to Torah, mitzvot, and acts of kindness that help rebuild our communities spiritually.

If you have questions about these observances, our Rabbi and Jewish community are always available to provide guidance.

1. Construction and Home Improvements

During The Nine Days, construction or renovations that are primarily for beauty, comfort, or enjoyment are generally postponed.

However, repairs or projects necessary for safe and functional living may continue.

2. Meat and Wine

It is customary to refrain from eating meat (including poultry) and drinking wine or grape juice throughout The Nine Days.

Exceptions include:

  • Shabbos meals
  • Seudas mitzvah (such as a Bris celebration)

These occasions remain opportunities to celebrate mitzvot with joy.

3. Havdalah During The Nine Days

Because Havdalah is traditionally recited over wine or grape juice, several accepted customs exist during The Nine Days.

Some continue using wine as usual, while others:

  • Give the grape juice to a child (typically ages 5–10) to drink.
  • Use beer for Havdalah where halachically appropriate.

Your family's practice should follow the guidance of your Rabbi.

4. Laundry

Laundry is generally avoided during The Nine Days.

Exceptions include:

  • Children's clothing that becomes soiled regularly.
  • Washing when absolutely necessary.
  • Spot cleaning, light ironing, and drying garments are generally permitted.

If someone runs out of clean clothing, purchasing inexpensive necessities may be preferable to doing laundry, while washing more expensive items may sometimes be the better option.

5. Wearing Freshly Laundered Clothing

Customarily, freshly laundered clothing is not worn during The Nine Days.

Many people prepare beforehand by wearing clothing briefly prior to Rosh Chodesh Av so it is no longer considered freshly laundered.

If this preparation was not done, some have the custom of slightly reducing the garment's freshness before wearing it.

6. Shabbos Clothing

The honor of Shabbos remains unchanged.

Freshly laundered clothing may be worn on Shabbos. Once those garments have been worn during Shabbos, they may generally continue to be worn during the following week.

Care should be taken not to openly prepare clothing on Shabbos for use after Shabbos.

7. Bathing and Swimming

Swimming and bathing for pleasure are generally avoided during The Nine Days.

Bathing for cleanliness remains permitted. Many observe this by taking shorter showers with water that is less comfortable than usual.

In honor of Shabbos, however, many authorities permit washing with hot water.

Children may be bathed as needed for hygiene.

8. Major Purchases

Large discretionary purchases are generally postponed during The Nine Days.

Necessary purchases—such as replacing an essential household appliance—or limited-time opportunities that would otherwise be lost may still be appropriate.

When in doubt, consult your Rabbi for guidance.

The Meaning Behind These Customs

While these customs involve temporary limitations, their purpose is not hardship for its own sake. They create space for reflection on the loss of the Beis HaMikdash and inspire us to strengthen our connection to Hashem, our Jewish community, and one another.

Every custom observed during The Nine Days reminds us that mourning for Jerusalem is accompanied by hope for redemption and rebuilding.

One of the best ways to strengthen that connection is by participating in Torah classes, attending Shabbat services, and engaging with a welcoming Orthodox Jewish community.

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